A debate that at the core of every heart lies the pursuit of happiness is unnecessary. Pragmatically, many would agree, that happiness is actually a constant struggle. As kids we read fairy tales whose ending became obvious in due course; ..and they lived happily ever after”, but sorry to crush the party folks because in reality, no one gets to live the end of a fairy tale as you may have noticed. As you evolve into an adult, happiness tends to have its seasons. One minute your sentiments are in elation, the next they are in melancholy.
Sayings like “never trust people that always seem happy” are really not hard to come by. Everyone knows that being happy every time is not only abnormal, but also surreal. Ironically, everyone knows that there is nothing wrong with being happy every time. I know the last two statements seem contradictory and equivocal, but the fact remains that in spite of it not being the norm, everyone wants to be happy all the time. That being happy every time is surreal carries much more weight to me because it implies two things.
Firstly, a person happy every time implies that they are an exemption from myriads of disheartening experiences life has to offer. The first anatomy you make is that their happiness is simply a facade. It is just improbable because they seem fake and alarm skepticism in us,the people around them. Life hits us hard many a time and robs us of the right to smile, laugh or basically be happy. We pretty much know that no one is an exception of this-maybe only these people? We may have just programmed ourselves to believe that happiness is not an infinite stream, but then it is the experiences we face that eliminate the programming.
Secondly, these people are living proof that we are in control of our happiness and that we can live life like it never happened- if you receive my meaning. Being in control of your own happiness is not allowing any one take it away from you; it is putting everyone’s thought of you beneath you. We are living in a world where people, including ’13 year olds’, claim to have around them what is termed as haters. Well no one is allowed to kill your vibe unless you let them. Some people lack self-esteem and put so much belief in what others think of them or appear to them. Many a time we are far much better than our critics or ‘haters’. If people speak evil of you when your deeds are not even in that direction, know you are in the right path and put your head up. Do not be gloomy over unworthy triviality. If it helps you, believe you are the best in the world, prettiest in the world, most handsome in the world because self-esteem really is important. Always be at peace with yourself and others around you. Forgive, love, apologise, commend, ignore irrelevant folly and do it over again.
To be happy, you simply do not have to do what makes you uncomfortable.
- Hate your job, quit.
- Not comfortable with your course, start a better one.
- Not happy with your relationship, try to work it out, failure to which you leave. There is no reason to cheat on any one, if you are being cheated on, you do not deserve it.
- Not happy with school, quit if you are as innovative as Steve Jobs or learn to love it
- If being around some people make you uncomfortable, do not be around them or let them know so they can treat you better
- Always speak your mind, know where you stand
- Always know what’s good for you, it is called having standards.
When you look at these few points, life seems simple, but then that is what it is .It is the simple things that take away our joy. You only live once on earth and with this short period of your life, make sure you are happy. When you know what is good for you, pretty doesn’t hurt anymore, your pursuit of happiness would then be successful.
Always live in the moment.Laugh hard when you have the chance,love hard when you have the chance,just be happy.
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