Hey everyone,I hope easter has been enjoyable. With regard to this month’s #IamAZedBlogger Challenge, I teamed up with another blogger, Gloria and with mine and her pretty brains we came up with this post, I hope you enjoy 🙂 .
Because I am a university student, I see a lot of things. I am sure you know what I am talking about. My friend Uche and I had been chatting about how young people tend to lose themselves when they go to university, especially when you move away from home. Whether we are within the country or outside, I don’t understand why but, we just tend to go with the flow. You know the new found freedom: partying, boys/girls, alcohol and all that.
Yes, according to social psychology it is a normal part of the development of a human being. It however becomes a problem when you fail to recognise who you are, and instead begin to identify yourself with a particular crowd which includes that crowd’s traits, behaviour and habits. The thing is when we go to a new place we want to redefine who we are. And well that is a good thing, but sometimes we want to be known as “cool” and “the party starters”. That’s fine as well, but my question is which kind of cool are you and what type of party do you start? Which crowd are you identified with?
Those questions Gloria has raised above are worth thinking about. You know losing your identity is the greatest poverty you can ever experience. Because all the guys in campus party recklessly, drink irresponsibly, do drugs or sleep around doesn’t mean I have to forget that I am the opposite of them- if at all I am. However, if I lose my identity and join the crowd, I deprive myself of a wise choice because the consequences I may face will be fatal and that crowd will not be there to pick me up from my pit of distress. Living a life to impress others is not the best way you can show them you are cool. There is so many cool and safe ways to be cool just discover which.
Maybe university just brings out who you really are because if you know what is good for you, you will not dare indulge into vices that will possibly ruin your life. Some people are like the role model during high school and make you look bad because they are the decent and high achieving kids , but when they go to college or university, they are the drunkard of the year. Many of them have ended up being excluded in the very first year because they become failures. I just don’t understand why it is easy to copy ill manners from someone than good morals.
Freshmen or freshers need to know what exactly they are in for when they join a university so as to eliminate the possibilities of them making unwise decisions. I know university poses plenty temptations to a student because the freedom is to an extent unlimited. Sex becomes more available than ever, you can miss classes all you like;basically, nobody is there to seriously warn you of a wrong path you may be taking because you are an adult as far as everyone are concerned. This and many more becomes too much for someone and much more for one who is meeting this for the first time.
Self-control shouldn’t wane in a place like this. Girls need to focus real hard because they are a major target of sugar daddies and many guys who just want to date a college/university girl. You may leave university with a pregnancy instead of a degree or diploma. It’s just the same warning to us guys only that we may father a child at a very wrong time. Worse still, Hiv still has no cure. Be patient, there is time for everything. There will still be alcohol, clubs, girls/boys, and a lot of improved fun even after graduating.
So when you go into university, enter to succeed and never to forget that. Study hard, parties will ever be around.
This is the message we had for you folks. Bless.