SO LONG 2016

 

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The most amazing thing about time these days is just how fast it has begun to go by. Maybe when you get older it becomes easier to vividly remember every detail that transpired throughout the year and especially early in the year because it seems like yesterday when they did transpire. I mean it was only January 2016 a few days ago and today is the last day of 2016.

If there was ever a year I became conscious of my getting wiser, it is this one. I feel like this year has been a classroom. I may not have been a top student in it, but I still got the lecture of a life time regardless.

One of the special courses was me. I took time to understand myself. I am proud to say that I know myself better than any other time before. I will be catching up with God soon, if it were possible that is. One thing I learnt was that my social skills aren’t so good. I find it hard to converse or initiate conversation with people I feel uncomfortable with, let alone small talk. I hate small talk. I say things I do not mean while expecting the other person to perceive it a joke only to realise months later that person was hurt. ‘’why so serious though”?  I saw a meme the other week that read ‘I have a good heart, but the way my mouth is set up’.  I said I could totally relate to it.

Well, enough about me, I will keep the rest of the findings to myself.

The second course was People. Wow, I have learnt so much about people this year. It was like I was absent minded all this while.  Normally I do not feel so important to be in other people’s topics so I haven’t really been worried about that. Presently I have realised I have. I am in topics where I am discussed as proud, egocentric, arrogant, well let me just sum it up for them,  the devil. Also in other discussions, I am an inspiration, humble, determined, and focussed and all those things. The funny thing, however ,is that the people I have assisted, gone lengths to impress and please have had the most negative things to say about me. This is confusing. You know it should be the people not so close to you.

Some good things have happened to me this year. I have achieved some things and also been recognised for some of those things. I am not a sucker for praises, but I realised that it was few people who could say well done or congratulations. I can never even post my achievements on social media with a clear mind.

I have vowed that envy,  jealousy or hate never be a part of me.  The truth about being jealous is that we wish to be like another person or have something the other possesses which we do not have. In so doing, we may have created enough hate for the other person but consequently made them important. As we move to 2017 I ask you all to congratulate those who deserve, appreciate those who helped us and be humble as to learn from someone who knows better. I believe that everyone’s time will come, but who will be there to be happy for you when you already hated on everyone else?

Also if you want to know about someone, get it directly from them or you will miss the real picture. I have a friend who is so happy with how far God has brought him in life and his achievements. People say he loves to brag and label him a bad person immediately because of that, but this is a person who provides solutions to so many people and remains dependent to many, including those that do label him.

In this year, the most important thing I have learnt concerning relations with humans is to pay a deaf ear to humans for only God can handle humans and we can never please everyone. I want to encourage those who are constantly irrationally criticised, that you end up thinking you are just evil, to continue doing what you do to the best of your ability. It may be at work, church, school or anywhere because the truth is we can never completely flee impossible beings. Do not look sideways or backwards, keep looking forward and keep doing the right thing and you may put a smile on God’s face and that’s what is important. Also do not be quick to trust everyone. Know what is worth sharing and who is worth sharing to. Just like present day romantic relationships are so fragile is the same way friendships are. I never thought I could help someone only for them to talk behind my back.

In 2017 I have no time for fake people. If you have nothing to add to my progress you are already voted out. It is very important to be around people that help you grow and appreciate you. I am not saying you will meet perfect people, but do find people who try.

The other course I learnt is how we are all in our own time zone. Your timing shouldn’t be compared to others. You will make it in your own time and I pray it will be God’s timing as we all know it is the best.

I have always believed that a year is an interval we created that begins and ends, but life goes on. So I may say I will do something in 2017 only because I have started doing it now. I have no resolutions. Everything will fall into place with time. It is not like a new year is the Holy Spirit that is only possible in inducing great and instant change in us.

I am thankful to God for bringing me this far. I will never be anything without him. I am thankful to all the people that have been there to encourage and build me. I appreciate the many people that believe in me.  I pray that you all move into this new year blessed people. I wish you nothing but the best and may the almighty God bless you.

So long 2016,you have opened my eyes wider, you have turned me into a better and stronger individual.

To everyone, Happy new year!!!

 

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DEAR 2014

Dear 2014, I would like to officially welcome you into my life. As 2013 may have told you at his farewell, I am not flawless. What you are in for is witnessing an individual striving to be better.

Dear 2014, you will note I have friends and I have enemies, some I can never tell apart. You will notice that pleasing some of them is pointless and if I am to continue in that direction, I lose my joy. I decided that maintaining an image that I’m not to satisfy others is suicidal. I humbly learned that my happiness matters-the most and I’m in control of its existence.

Dear 2014, do not judge me like the rest.2013 knows best that I do not appreciate that disease. I love correction, but you will not look down on me like I am the first acquaintance you met with a weakness. You will realise that it is thoughtful to encourage me, rebuke me, rationally criticise me as I reciprocate these gestures. The idea here is to help each other. Dear 2014, learn to build and not demolish because standing tall is the aim.

Dear 2014, 2013 may have explained how I have lately shun away from love.I remember how 2013 was impressed when I told him I had never met anyone that deserved me. He fathomed how high my standards had risen in relation to 2012. He, however, found me irresponsible when I told him also that I wasn’t ready to be committed. I don’t know if you will understand me in this area, 2014, but know that I live for patience and faith. You will soon learn that not all handsome guys are players and lack principles. You will learn not to judge a book by its covers.

Dear 2014, if I may be the only one not giving you promises people call resolutions, I am fine with it. I just want you to continue with me where 2013 left me because lying to you is lying to myself. You will see that my life is a constant struggle to perfection. I failed, I fell, I lost but I never gave up. I will frown and I will smile. I will fight and I will overcome, but through it all you will still be my companion, my year.

A new year is here

A new year is here

NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS

Nearing the year end,hearing about resolutions is such a cliché or the term itself  is simply a mantra.Apparently,most embrace the thought of becoming new like the coming year consequently not fathoming the real purpose of resolutions.Resolutions should ,however,not be perfunctory and transient, but carried out with prudence everyday.Anyway,2014 is around the corner and we are on this road again.

I don’t think I have to wait for a new year to opt for being better though. We have to realise that one’s positive change is valid at any time of the year.One should promptly act to any irregularity or abhorrent lifestyle detected in themselves.If new year’s resolutions  are the only treatment we give to ourselves in the hope to be better people,it will mean we overlook any other shortfalls in our lives because we will not give attention to these other aspects of change.This also means  that our change will only be seasonal which is unhealthy.My point is make necessary amendments as often as possible.

On the other hand,resolutions on their own are a positive step moving into a new year.The fact is the change into a new year is actually not felt physically,it is only the dates that change,otherwise you are still the same person you were the previous year.Resolutions are the easiest rules you can ever break maybe because you are the only person to enforce them on yourself.This is why self-discipline is a very substantial catalyst in this reaction or you may end up breaking one or two of your rules on the very first day of that particular year.

I wish to give you 5 tips to make sure your resolutions are a success

  1. Come to a consensus with yourself that you really need the change
  2. Remind yourself of the awkwardness your current status causes you
  3. Let someone close know about your plan so they remind you when you are off track
  4. Be ready to fight all the impeding factors like temptation and criticism
  5. Last but not the least, pray and meditate about your resolutions

Personally, I come up with resolutions every week which I honestly constantly struggle to cope up with on this journey in search of perfection. My message to anyone not enchanted by their present lifestyle is not to wait till next year, but work on themselves immediately. When you find a cause for war, you do not slacken, but go for it lest your rival pounces on you first to your disadvantage .Note that the change in mention is merely developing into a better person.However,change because it is necessary and not for a person because it should be about complacency-your happiness is key .

I pray you all go into the next year believing you will be a better people because you are working on yourselves at the moment. Wishing you all a wonderful festive season and a prosperous coming new year.God bless you all and stay safe.