Ever been faced with a situation that left you remorseful because you did something you hated and never thought you would do, sorely because you had no self-esteem at the time? No? Well then you must be among a random fortunate few because most of us have been a victim of this particular situation. Sometimes we do not act ourselves simply because we want to please someone else. Some of these actions incite jeopardy upon us, but even though, we decide to overlook any warning. I could emphasise more, but I suppose the imagery of lack of self-esteem should be painted in your minds from what I have explained in a few words.
The first step to attaining self-esteem is dodging an identity crisis. Many of us lack the ability to realise the dignity we possess. I know there is a system of grouping where one is classified as rich or poor, educated or uneducated, eminent or ordinary, and not forgetting the moral high ground. As much as these masks make others appear superior or inferior, we are all human beings with mutual feelings, failures and strengths; among others. Many people, however, do no not realise this and therefore never really know their position. Identifying yourself is very important because it limits your vulnerability to any sort of insecurities. Since you realise you are as good as anyone else, you will have no reason to feel bad about yourself and try to act inferior to another.
At times the reason people fail to break through an identity crisis is because they refuse to flee unhealthy manipulation of them by others. The attitude and influence of the people around us is always felt. I do not see how someone can manage to feel good about himself when all his positive energy is drained by negative people who make him believe that he is not good enough for something. I advise you to avoid people who always seem to take away your belief in yourself. Do not allow anyone to judge you less. Even if people do not give you compliments when due, do not lose yourself. If it makes you feel better, believe you are the best in the world, the most handsome or prettiest in the world. At all times, boost your self-confidence.
You should know that being devoid of self-esteem is very suicidal. It drives you into poor decision making. Because you have no self-respect, you decide to stick to a violent partner or a job that has you mistreated. Having in mind that we may encounter desperate times, I still believe self-esteem will always allow room for you to make decisions in your best interest. It will make you quit a job that has you underpaid or tell or set straight a person that thinks they can sexually harass you. You will know that you can’t say yes to every proposal .Yes! With self-esteem not everyone deserves to go out with you. You will know just how special you are and just how much you are worth. Self-esteem defines our dressing, our talk or basically our lifestyle. I am sure you will never see President Obama dressed like Kanye or Lil Wayne. With self-esteem comes a self-image.
Please do not grow big headed at this point and try to get me wrong. Just because I have reminded you of how special you are, do not go out there preaching your importance. Yes you are important, but this minute realise that there is a thin line between self-esteem and pride. Being proud of yourself is alright, but it doesn’t have to make you contemptuous or condescending. Have regard for others and create an environment that allows people you interact with feel comfortable and full of self-esteem .Help others evaluate themselves. Make it your responsibility that they do.
If you ever look down on yourself, terminate that contract and apply for self-confidence, self-worth, a sense of worth, self-respect, self-regard, self-assurance and not forgetting pride. Life is too short to live as an outcast to yourself.