Quite surprising how today we are just five days to 2022. It feels like yesterday when our ship first docked in January for a period that seemed like three months, yet here we are. Indeed the wings of time are getting sturdier moment by moment. This has been quite a year. Yet again pain visited us in its own subtle way; myriads of loved ones we lost to Covid-19 and other predicaments. More painful was a number of young people, full of potential and in many ways better than us, who went before us. A true call for gratitude in our hearts must exist in us today. The review of the year cannot only focus on pain because that is not the only aspect it gave us, the year also sprinkled us with joy; you all have your personal victories, our boys made it to the English Premier league, another scored against Madrid and 12th August had the majority of the nation celebrating.
We are again at the point where our drafts are full of resolutions for the new year. While I do not believe in waiting for a new year to present efforts to be better, anyone who sees the need to do/become better deserves respect. Reflecting on this year, I first of all wish to acknowledge all the efforts you all have made to improve yourselves. I do not know them, but you know best. You wrestled demons, climbed mountains, swarm in danger and here you are standing at the mountain top with a sword in your right hand and the head of your opponent in your left. Surely will you not not stop putting pressure on yourself and tap yourself on your shoulder? Secondly, to those that are going ahead with resolutions, by all means. As you cook them though, allow me to throw in a few ingredients.
I believe that the best aesthetic you can add or enhance in yourself is kindness. We must be mindful of how we treat other human beings. I believe that the real measure of a man must be character and the starting point of character is how we treat others. As you think about becoming better, think about increasing your emotional intelligence. How we treat others will speak volumes about us than the personal perceptions of ourselves we preach. Our speech and actions towards others must reflect how we would love to be treated. I say sometimes that even after your demise, someone could remember the hurt your tongue inflicted on them. We therefore must be mindful of our behavior when relating with others.
You may resolve to attain a certain level of success and a key aspect in meeting your goal will be discipline. Discipline is crucial to our growth. I have this perspective that a lot of people that succeeded at something may actually not be better than those that couldn’t at the same thing. What set them apart was discipline. You must know when to stop and when to continue. You should never go with the wind, but you should be able to stand by a few personal principals. You must learn to have control of yourself. Lack of discipline limits your ability and capacity to stay on course. Whether you want to improve your grades, your self esteem, your relationship with your partner, your religious life or anything that may be your goal, you will need to teach yourself to follow personal rules.
On your journey of personal development, your self-esteem will be your impetus to attain more. I encourage people to read less of novels and more of personal development themed books including those that induce leadership. Surround yourself with kind , goal oriented and inspirational people. Ensure that you feed your mind with content that makes you believe that you are everything and can do anything. Remember that your mind is your greatest weapon, it is your compass, it is your healing and it is your growth. Therefore, make sure you nurture your mind to develop a mentality that is elite, you cannot afford not to be a god. What you listen to, what you watch, who your surround yourself with will shape your mentality. Strengthen your mentality and realise that you are a Queen and a King. Sometimes people get away with treating us undeservingly because we may not realise who we are. Let that power sprout in you to take nothing less than you deserve. Soon as you develop a great mentality, how people relate with you will change. Do not do it for the people though, but do it to expand your belief that there exists no limits to what you can achieve and to emancipate yourself.
As I conclude this blog post, I wish to encourage you all to have a heart of gratitude. There is always something to be thankful for. Recognise anyone who helped you, added value to your existence and inspired you. It doesn’t matter if you are at loggerheads with them, always remember the people that were there for you. In the same vein, cut of toxic people- just do not do it because it is a new year and new you. Anyone that costs your peace must never be tolerated. Let us free ourselves from human beings who deprive us of happiness. I wish this for you now and in the coming years. I do hope that one or two aspects I shared could be helpful and applicable in your life. God bless you all and wish you a great 2022- happy cross over.